Today is the first day of what I would like to call my “Men Fast”. Starting this week for 7 days I am not communicating with any men unless it is business related. If I have to call someplace regarding school or related business matters and a male answers ok nothing I can do about that.
But any males calling to talk, sending texts, emailing etc…..no response. Not only do I need a break just for peace sake, but I am seriously running the risk of becoming one extremely jaded black chick from the amount of jerks that have been trying to communicate with me.
Now I admit part of that is on me because the impetus for many of them to call was provocative, however it’s like too many are stuck on stupid. It seems to be against the law to say or act provocatively and not “follow through” or give it up to whoever asks whenever they are asking(rolls eyes).
Before one develops too much sympathy for these “devils”, telling them all up front what the reality is has absolutely no bearing on the ultimate outcome. Malespeak(black) says if you flirt or do anything or say anything provocative, then you are looking for sex looking to be sexed and are only waiting for the cue to “bend over”.
So I am taking a break from truly DUMB males which at this point are mixed in unfortunately with the good ones. Only way to separate the wheat from the chaff should one choose to do so, is to have some patience and create some distance. So my phone is turned off, and any emails I get from any males *deleted*.
This week the focus is on health (running at least 3x’s this week, three sessions at least of lower body excercise – squats, crunches) If i can get to the gym bonus…if not do what I can at the house. School – whatever follow up calls I need to make do so this week. Orientation starts on August 11th. Handle business, pray – reading psalms and writing here….that is the ingredients of the coming week.
Sometimes, it’s necessary to throw out everything and start from scratch. Too much time can be spent in trying to sort through, fix or understand or just relate. Sometimes trying to do just that you can get sucked in deeper and the only remedy is to walk away and take a break. Only way to clear the air.
Will review the outcome this weekend – should be interesting. Coming out of this self-imposed fast is not a prelude to anything goes or is being done to gin up interest. In actuality its to obtain some clarity and prune off people, places and things that are negative and are not leading to productive places in this thing that we call life.
It is also a precursor to my upcoming birthday which I refuse to spend with anything remotely resembling or sounding like any of the misogynistic Neanderthals that have been buzzing around of late.
I still may have to send out clips of that “rose garden song” to some utterly clueless folks.
“I beg your pardon – I never promised you a rose garden..”
Lynn Anderson-I Never Promised You a Rose Garden