In the midst of my current hurt and situation, it is very tempting to want to find someone to talk to about it. Especially to find a minister or someone coming from a spiritual perspective. Because of my beliefs, if I were to undergo counseling it would have to be in a spiritual environment under the auspices of a counselor who is not only trained in the secular sense but also has undergone some form of training from a christian counseling perspective.
I say this, and then I run into this story and, I think that one on one counseling in the church has been fraught with issues, irregardless of denomination. When a person goes to a minister for counseling they are at a vulnerable state. Unfortunately everyone that calls themselves “minister/man of God”, are not.
Nathaniel Tumbwe was an elder at the Potter’s House Church in Dallas, TX. he recently plead guilty to rape, and being HIV positive and having unprotected sex with women – intentionally. According to the terms of the agreement with prosecutors, he is to serve 15 years and then is to be deported to Zamibia. Lest one be misguided into thinking this was the whim of a young mind, Mr. Tumbwe is 47, and the victim in the case that he plead guilty to, Carolyn Hudson, another church elder at the Potter’s House is 60 years old.
I myself know and understand how vulnerable I am right now. It would be so very easy to fall into a situation unwittingly just to avoid feeling the pain. It would be even easier to allow myself to be befriended again for the same reason and not properly scrutinize the overtures and get into a situation that, in the long run would only make things worse.
Not going to bash the well known mega-church for the “scandal” there are plenty other bloggers that I am sure will do just that with no small measure of glee. If Michael Baisden has not hit on this already, I am sure it is coming any day now. For in truth this issue is not exclusive to the mega-church, in fact these types of things have been going on from the times of the little church on the hill.
It just saddens me, without even knowing the particulars of this case save what has been put forward, to know that kind of pain. To want to find that one person that you can confide in and receive guidance coming from a spiritual source – boy do I know that feeling. Those that prey on the hurt and vulnerable…can’t even finish the thought….
Pray for God to guide you to those who can help you, but in all things rely on God FIRST AND FOREMOST.
It is not youth that hath folly – there is no fool like an OLD fool…