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August 6, 2006

Goal Oriented - 101

Ok this will be a good one as its in part response to something said to me by someone that begs for a response but it also is something I had been contemplating and considering for some time.

The pursuit of goals, and in fact the act of being "goal oriented". I would like to think that there is no better example of how much emphasis and how my idea of focus and goals are of importance but by looking at my son. From a very early age he was taught and shown as best as i could that in order for him to live a life where he would have MORE choices and more freedom to do the things that he wanted to do, to live the kind of life that would be more comfortable for him, that he had to hit the books in school, and go to college. Not that I drummed it in his head but it was imparted to him and whenever I got the opportunity to show him actual evidence of this being the case I did. I tried to expose him to professional people who had gone that route as well as expose him to situations and circumstances that would reinforce that.

The result is nothing short of stunning, because even having spent an entire summer in the hospital with a serious illness and even being very close to not being here at all, he never lost sight of his goals. To graduate high school and go on to college. It was what he used to focus on during the entire time he was in the hospital and even when he got out, he never relinquished his focus and did not doubt for one second and did not even speak any words of doubt into existence.

Even when everything around him appeared to be working against him he never lost sight of his goal. He NEVER EVER gave up. Never said, "Mom I can't do this..." NEVER. While there may have been times when he was in the hospital where the situations he was going through made him exasperated, angry even(the MSG insurance fiasco comes to mind) HE never ever gave up, and I as his mother never EVER stood in his way nor did anything in thought word, or deed to discourage him in any way.

Evidently something worked and as he prepares to go back to register for his second semester of classes at college. I know it is more of a testament to who HE is and is a walking, shinning, no BLINDING example of being goal oriented, being able to focus on those goals, and being completely unafraid of doing what is necessary to achieve them.
People have tried to credit me with what he has achieved so far in his life and I hear the phrase often "well it was a result of good parenting, you did this or that etc...."

My parenting was not so spectacular - i just love my child I loved him from the moment i felt him move inside me and every day i see him it grows. I don't feel like i did anything overly out of the way or anything that is like "well tell us how you did it "

I love my son with everything that is inside me, I am proud of his accomplishments because for me it is a testament to the wonderful person that i know him to be, NOT necessarily becaose of anything i did other than bring him into the world.

Posted by digitalmuse at August 6, 2006 7:41 AM

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