sometimes i wonder why i even bother with this. then I remeber not having anyone much to talk to, not interacting with people much outside work and realize that if i didnt find someplace to vent, namely here that i would probably be in a rubber room somewhere right now.
Let's see since the last post I have:
Moved - into a new apartment - in a new neighborhood
Gone back and forth on relationship issues that i seem unable to resovle of my own volition
Pretty much written my mother and grandmother off...(explanation to follow)
I figure i will tackle the mother/grandmother issue first since it ties into the other issues. My mother demanded to be put in charge of my grandmother's business affairs last september(2005) and in october she decided that since it was too much back and forth for her to run from her house(she has her own house) to my grandmother's house to take care of her that she would take her to stay with her over at her house. Unfortunately they did not make any provisions for me to be there, they left the bills unpaid, and they left a broken furnace that gave no heat in the deep of winter and i spent many a night without heat freezing under the covers as a result.
From November through January my mother vacillated between selling the house and keeping it and refi to fix and do some improvements. She finally made a decision in the second week of february to sell and i had till march 10th to find a place and get my stuff out of there.
Thankfully for me I found a nice place, its further out than i was but the neighborhood i feel is worth it. It is more suburban and a lot quieter.
When the house was sold even though they knew i really wasnt "prepared" financially for a move(for those of you on the short yellow bus this means i was broke) they(mother and grandmother) never offered me one dime to help me with moving and in fact my mother tried to get me to help pay for the dumpster that they hired to clean out the house with. My understanding is that she received $450K for the house, 130 had to pay off the outstanding equity loan, but the rest they got to keep. My mother as i said has her own place and my grandmother is not capable of living alone anymore.....I dont know why for some reason i thought that they would offer to help me with moving, I must have been dreaming.
I don't know why i keep expecting them to feel sorry for me and help they never have - in fact no one does...
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